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Love = Vulnerability

“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless–it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.” — C.S. Lewis (The Four Loves)

Tears have fallen today, though we knew this day would come. Our “Arnold Bean”, the once chubby beagle had to be put to sleep at the ripe old age of thirteen. The pain that loving brings is climaxed upon the death bed and perhaps purest in the tears of a child. Yet would we choose to not love, even an animal, in order to avoid such pending hurt, as death comes with life? Would we avoid affectionate attachment, so as to not feel inevitable anguish?

My daughter’s good bye offering to her beloved pet was a video montage which she made from the last pictures of today. Heart felt and tear invoking, her thirteen year old heart morned in an innocent and truthful way. My son, who chose to go with us to put the “old man” to sleep, made some deeply profound statements, as he rubbed his “best friend’s” head. Even in his eleven year old mind, he understood that both Lucifer’s fall and man’s fall were affecting his lovable beagle Arnold, and that because of sin, even the animals must pay the price and die. The sweet little boy that he is, said, “I am going to weep and weep for my best friend.”

Life means death and there is no escaping the pain that it brings.  As C. S. Lewis stated, “Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken.” In order to live the highest joys, one must experience the lowest lows. Loving an animal, especially for a child, is the first steps of experiencing life and death, joy and pain.  These may be the baby steps that help prepare for the loss of a grandparent or friend and should not be discounted and avoided, but embraced as part of growing pains that go along with life in a fallen world.


If Men Were Angels…..

“If men were angels, no government would be necessary.” James Madison-Federalist Papers Number 51.


A light is lit in a dark room to scatter the blackness, to uncover potential hazards and many times to send the cockroaches running.  This past week, light has been directly aimed into various dark corners and the cockroaches have indeed scattered.  Acorns are falling from trees,  a peanut farmer spreads hate and a spoiled nut steps into the spotlight, opens his mouth and spews insults.  Where is the morality?  Where are the ethics?  What happened to polite society?

While driving home after teaching a Government class for an engaging group of seniors high students, another vehicle passed by mine, slowed down and the young man in the back seat proceeded to drop his window,  drop his drawers and share his hind end with me and my car full of kids.  So much for keeping things in the dark!  Apparently this cockroach liked the sunshine, but it made me think deeply about the moral direction or  lack of it  in our country.  The contrast of the “mooning teen” to the teens who were passionately discussing the loss of individual rights when the “bad apples” in society break the law and law makers make blanket legislation that hurt those who uphold the law, was poignant.

Noah Webster stated, “The moral principles and precepts contained in Scripture ought to form the basis of all our civil constitutions and laws.  All the miseries and evils which men suffer from, vice, crime, ambition, injustice, oppression, slavery, and war, proceed from their despising or neglecting the precepts contained in the Bible.”  If  this is true and I believe it is, then it explains the “why” to the condition of our morally decaying society.  When there is no bedrock of absolute truth, when society lives by it’s own wavering definition of “rightness”, then we end up with a society of citizens, run by a government of officials who don’t pay their taxes, who lie, cheat and steal, who support an ideology of “just don’t get caught” and who act like Eve in the Garden of Eden passing the buck when they are caught with their pants down.  If the “grown ups” who run the government, work in the schools,  for the unions, the hospitals and the car dealerships (a very short list) live by their wishy-washy whims, then how can we expect the youth of the nation to live any differently?

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We act shocked by the Acorn scandals this past week, but why are we, when right is might and morality is fleeting?  Webster may seem prophetic in his statement: “All the miseries and evils which men suffer from, vice, crime, ambition, injustice, oppression, slavery, and war, proceed from their despising or neglecting the precepts contained in the Bible”, yet this isn’t prophetic, but merely learning the lessons from history and hind sight.  Immorality is as old as the foundation of the earth and nothing in human nature alone can over come its grip.  Yet we choose to not learn from the mistakes of those before us and pridefully believe we have evolved into a better creature.   I have yet to see an evolved ethically moral human being without the foundation of Biblical Truth permeating his life.

Clive Staples Lewis penned this poem that speaks clearly about the nature of man: 

All this is flashy rhetoric about loving you.
I never had a selfless thought since I was born.
I am mercenary and self-seeking through and through:
I want God, you, all friends, merely to serve my turn.

Peace, re-assurance, pleasure, are the goals I seek,
I cannot crawl one inch outside my proper skin:
I talk of love –a scholar’s parrot may talk Greek–
But, self-imprisoned, always end where I begin.

Only that now you have taught me (but how late) my lack.
I see the chasm. And everything you are was making
My heart into a bridge by which I might get back
From exile, and grow man. And now the bridge is breaking.

For this I bless you as the ruin falls. The pains
You give me are more precious than all other gains.

Humanity, brought into the glaring light of morality, will scatter like a cockroach unless it has learned to live, believe and be changed by the Scripture.  We who desire to see our country restored must be willing to live by the standards that we require others to live by.  Our morality must be whiter and truer than the next man’s morality because only then do we have a relevant leg to stand on.  Our morality must be based on non-shifting truth and we must raise the bar for the youth of the nation to live by the higher standard and not tolerate unethical and immoral behavior.  We must demand our public officials to sign a new Magna Carta stating that they will abide by an high ethical standard and hold them to it.  We must not only hold our politicians to the strict construction of the Constitution, but we also must be willing  ourselves not only live it, but die for it.

Men are not angels and can easily devolve into cockroaches when the lights of morality are dim.  Let us not dumb down our moral curriculum just because it is difficult to live by, but rather raise the bar and raise a nation of youth who rise up to the occasion of doing what is right.  And when government or any other public or private office in America ducks under this bar, we need to turn the lights on, expose them and reach for the bug repellent.

Obama 101

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I remember being taught as a little girl to love the Lord God and serve Him only.  I remember standing with my fellow classmates each morning, hand over my heart, saying with respect for each word, “I pledge Allegiance to the flag of the United States of America and to the Republic for which it stands, one nation under God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.”  I remember being taught in school to honor and respect the office of the President, a position that has been gilded by such noble men as George Washington, James Madison and Abraham Lincoln.  I remember walking to the polling place each election year and somehow knowing even as a child the significance of casting a vote.  I remember  having the privilege in second grade of signing a “Declaration of Independence” in honor of our nation’s two hundredth birthday and sending it from the west coast to the east in a covered wagon.  But what I don’t remember is a political agenda of a President and an indoctrination coming from Washington D.C. to affect my mind as a young child.

School was a place of learning and ideas; it was a place where teachers inspired this learning and where friendships lasted.  School was about the recess games and spelling all the states’ names correctly.  The teachers cared about the child’s academic progress and  growth with the objective: to teach  him to grow in wisdom, stature and favor with God and man.

How then, if this is what school was, do we find ourselves pledging not to the flag, but to an ideology carried on the authority of the President.  No time in the history of the United States has a President infiltrated the halls of learning in such a manner.  Is it historic?  Perhaps.  Is it right?  I think not.

First ladies have visited schools for the cause of education. Campaigning politicians have visited the classrooms of their precincts to meet and greet teachers and parents. However, to have the standing President become the cheer leader of an ideological cause which demands a pledge of service from children who have no voice in the political spectrum is insidious.  Obama however demonstrates his genius through this agenda to take this captive audience of young impressionable children and infiltrate their impressionable minds.  His marketing techniques for his “Change” and “Hope” campaign are brilliant yet beyond the pale.   “Education is a weapon whose effects depend on who holds it in his hands and at whom it is aimed” and thus Obama enters the classroom.


Some may argue that the children of America are getting the pleasure of having the President of the United States speak in their classrooms and perhaps this would be true if there was not a blatant agenda presupposing the visit.  This is  a campaign for the hearts and minds of our children, a segment of society that should be left out of the political fray and allowed to be nurtured by their parents; schooled in reading, writing and arithmetic and not used as pawns in this Administrations’ plans for its future.

When Barack Obama took office, he swore to the American people these words: “I do solemnly swear that I will faithfully execute the office of President of the United States, and will to the best of my ability, preserve, protect and defend the Constitutions of the United States.”  This is the same oath which every President has solemnly promised to the people he has served.  Yet this forty-fourth president has forgotten that though he sits in the most powerful seat in the world, he came to this position by only 53% of the people’s votes, yet when he took this oath of office it was as President to 100% of America.  Barrack Obama is our public servant who works for the United States of America in the capacity of chief executive.  His paycheck is signed by the American people and as our employee; he should be listening to those for whom he works instead of indoctrinating America’s children.

This Tuesday, “We the Parents” must take a strong stand for our children. We must send a message to our government that they work for us, that the liberal agenda does not belong in the classroom and that the President needs to stay in the Oval office and do the work of a President.  If our government uses sanctions to put pressure on others countries that are out of line, then we, the parents should sanction our government by keeping our children home on Tuesday and therefore send a message that affects the pocket book of each district that refuses to listen to its clientele. The government, in its many forms, works for us and when that government is not working well for us, we fire it.  The Administration dismisses the voice of the people, as “astroturf” and  “Right Wing Domestic Terrorists” and as such, we must continue to turn up the our democratic heat, live out loud our First Amendment rights and protect the future of America, our children.

Thomas Paine Exhorts Parents

child flag“As parents, we can have no joy, knowing that this government is not sufficiently lasting to ensure any thing which we may bequeath to posterity: And by a plain method of argument, as we are running the next generation into debt, we ought to do the work of it, otherwise we use them meanly and pitifully. In order to discover the line of our duty rightly, we should take our children in our hand, and fix our station a few years farther into life; that eminence will present a prospect, which a few present fears and prejudices conceal from our sight.” Thomas Paine, Common Sense – 1776

It is my job, as a parent, to raise and protect the children that God has given me. It goes beyond the obvious needs of food, clothing and shelter and into an even greater need of “Train(ing) a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6.  Raising a child involves love, discipline, education and looking out for their needs now, as it will affect them when they are old. If parents in America only provide for a child’s physical needs, forgetting to nurture the whole child, then American parents have done nothing more than what a wild animal does for its offspring. My work as a parent goes well beyond the obvious and must be intentional in training, raising, and nurturing them into moral, ethical and God-fearing adults who will in turn also raise a generation who live and do likewise.

I must also fight for the ethical and moral rights of my children in the political arena, as they are unable to do so for themselves. As Paine stated, “We ought to do the work of it, otherwise we use them meanly and pitifully.” He was looking at his posterity realizing that the condition of the country in which they lived needed a drastic overhaul and unless the adults stepped up and took the initiative, the children would suffer for it. He recognized that it was his responsibility to leave to the next generation, a country and a constitution that would be radically different from that which the world had seen. He said, “The sun never shined on a cause of greater worth. ‘Tis not the affair of a city, a country, a province, or a kingdom, but of a continent – of at least one eighth part of the habitable globe. ‘Tis not the concern of a day, a year, or an age; posterity are virtually involved in the contest, and will be more or less affected, even to the end of time, by the proceedings now. Now is the seed-time of continental union, faith and honor.” thomas paine

We are in a battle that represents more than just regaining the Congress with a Republican majority. This is about the America our children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren will inherit. It is waged for their future and for the hope that they will continue to live in a country that is still a shining light on the hill in contrast to all the nations of the earth that have been, are and will be. Freedom must always be guarded and battle lines must always be armed to defend freedom. When people become apathetic and lulled into a false sense of security, the enemies of freedom infiltrate and erode from within. The city on the hill has allowed the Trojan horse to enter the gates, yet because we know the story of the horse, we can destroy it, before it destroys the country that we love and cherish.

America is awake and fighting mad. I pray that it is more than personal and that those who are showing up to the Tea Parties are doing so for this generation, the generation to follow and the one that came before. This fight can not be merely a selfish angst against health care reform, but rather a righteous indignation that America, bought with the blood of thousands of men and woman; can not, should not, be allowed to become like every the other nation in the history of the world. America was given the opportunity in the pages of history to be different, to not be like the European nations across the great Atlantic, but to strike out and begin a republic that would be a “new world….the asylum for the persecuted, lovers of civil and religious liberty from every Part of Europe. Hither have they fled, not from the tender embraces of the mother, but from the cruelty of the monster…..” (pg 139, Glenn Beck’s Common Sense) We must not allow the struggle of our Nation for a Republic Democracy in 1776, to become a wisp on the pages of history, but rather the defining government in all of history. We must not believe that the struggle ended with the surrender of Britain over two hundred years ago, but rather continues today through the diligent care of those who hold democracy in their hands: we the people.


We the people are we the parents of the future of this nation. Our children depend upon us to stand up for their future rights by being involved in the process of our government. We are not governed, we are the government. However, if we allow ourselves to be controlled by those in Washington, instead of controlling them, then we have lost sight of what our job entails, and what their elected position requires. We can not be so busy living life that we forget to protect the very home that we will be leave to our children. We can not be so busy playing, that we forget our duty to provide for the future of our kids. We can not be so apathetic, that we are not diligent to train up our children, to feed our children and to protect them from those who don’t have their personal best interest at heart.

Our posterity depends upon “We the Parents in and of these United States, in order to form a more perfect Union, establish justice, insure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general welfare, and secure the blessings of liberty to ourselves and tour posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution of the United States of America.”